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Contemporary English Version

Genesis 31:28

You didn't even give me a chance to kiss my own grandchildren and daughters good-by. That was really foolish.

Bible Study Resources

Concordances:

- Nave's Topical Bible - Chiding;   Laban;   Parents;   Thompson Chain Reference - Family;   Fathers';   Home;   Love;   Parental;   Parents;   Paternal Love;  

Dictionaries:

- Easton Bible Dictionary - Kiss;   Fausset Bible Dictionary - Pentateuch;   Holman Bible Dictionary - Mizpah, Mizpeh;   Nuzi;   Hastings' Dictionary of the Bible - Ancestor-Worship;   Fool;   Gilead;   Israel;   Morrish Bible Dictionary - Cattle;   Laban ;   The Hawker's Poor Man's Concordance And Dictionary - Laban;   People's Dictionary of the Bible - Canaan (2);   Leah;   Smith Bible Dictionary - Seven;  

Encyclopedias:

- Condensed Biblical Cyclopedia - Esau and Jacob;   International Standard Bible Encyclopedia - Fool;   Kiss;  

Parallel Translations

Hebrew Names Version
and didn't allow me to kiss my sons and my daughters? Now have you done foolishly.
King James Version
And hast not suffered me to kiss my sons and my daughters? thou hast now done foolishly in so doing.
Lexham English Bible
And why did you not give me opportunity to kiss my grandsons and my daughters goodbye? Now you have behaved foolishly by doing this.
New Century Version
You did not even let me kiss my grandchildren and my daughters good-bye. You were very foolish to do this!
New English Translation
You didn't even allow me to kiss my daughters and my grandchildren goodbye. You have acted foolishly!
Amplified Bible
"And why did you not allow me to kiss my grandchildren and my daughters [goodbye]? Now you have done a foolish thing [in behaving like this].
New American Standard Bible
and did not allow me to kiss my grandchildren and my daughters? Now you have done foolishly.
Geneva Bible (1587)
But thou hast not suffered me to kisse my sonnes and my daughters: nowe thou hast done foolishly in doing so.
Legacy Standard Bible
and not allow me to kiss my sons and my daughters? Now you have acted foolishly.
Complete Jewish Bible
You didn't even let me kiss my sons and daughters good-bye! What a stupid thing to do!
Darby Translation
and hast not suffered me to kiss my sons and my daughters? Now thou hast acted foolishly.
Easy-to-Read Version
You didn't even let me kiss my grandchildren and my daughters goodbye. You were very foolish to do this!
English Standard Version
And why did you not permit me to kiss my sons and my daughters farewell? Now you have done foolishly.
George Lamsa Translation
And you did not permit me to give a farewell kiss to my sons and my daughters? Now you have done foolishly in so doing.
Good News Translation
You did not even let me kiss my grandchildren and my daughters good-bye. That was a foolish thing to do!
Christian Standard Bible®
but you didn’t even let me kiss my grandchildren and my daughters. You have acted foolishly.
Literal Translation
And you have not let me kiss my sons and my daughters. Now you have been foolish to do this .
Miles Coverdale Bible (1535)
and hast not suffred me to kysse my children and doughters? Thou hast done foolishly, and so moch might I haue made,
American Standard Version
and didst not suffer me to kiss my sons and my daughters? now hast thou done foolishly.
Bible in Basic English
You did not even let me give a kiss to my sons and my daughters. This was a foolish thing to do.
Bishop's Bible (1568)
And hast not suffred me to kysse my chyldren and my daughters? thou wast a foole nowe in so doyng.
JPS Old Testament (1917)
and didst not suffer me to kiss my sons and my daughters? now hast thou done foolishly.
King James Version (1611)
And hast not suffered me to kisse my sonnes and my daughters? thou hast now done foolishly in so doing.
Brenton's Septuagint (LXX)
And I was not counted worthy to embrace my children and my daughters; now then thou hast wrought foolishly.
English Revised Version
and hast not suffered me to kiss my sons and my daughters? now hast thou done foolishly.
Berean Standard Bible
But you did not even let me kiss my grandchildren and daughters goodbye. Now you have done a foolish thing.
Wycliffe Bible (1395)
Thou suffridist not that Y schulde kisse my sones and douytris; thou hast wrouyt folili.
Young's Literal Translation
and hast not suffered me to kiss my sons and my daughters? -- now thou hast acted foolishly in doing [so];
Update Bible Version
and did not allow me to kiss my sons and my daughters? now you have done foolishly.
Webster's Bible Translation
And hast not suffered me to kiss my sons, and my daughters? thou hast now done foolishly in [so] doing.
World English Bible
and didn't allow me to kiss my sons and my daughters? Now have you done foolishly.
New King James Version
And you did not allow me to kiss my sons and my daughters. Now you have done foolishly in so doing.
New Living Translation
Why didn't you let me kiss my daughters and grandchildren and tell them good-bye? You have acted very foolishly!
New Life Bible
Why did you not let me kiss my grandchildren and daughters good-bye? Now you have been foolish.
New Revised Standard
And why did you not permit me to kiss my sons and my daughters farewell? What you have done is foolish.
J.B. Rotherham Emphasized Bible
and didst not suffer me to kiss my sons and my daughters? Now, hast thou done, foolishly.
Douay-Rheims Bible
Thou hast not suffered me to kiss my sons and daughters; thou hast done foolishly; and now indeed,
Revised Standard Version
And why did you not permit me to kiss my sons and my daughters farewell? Now you have done foolishly.
New American Standard Bible (1995)
and did not allow me to kiss my sons and my daughters? Now you have done foolishly.

Contextual Overview

25 Jacob had set up camp in the hill country of Gilead, when Laban and his relatives came and set up camp in another part of the hill country. Laban went to Jacob 26 and said: Look what you've done! You've tricked me and run off with my daughters like a kidnapper. 27 Why did you sneak away without telling me? I would have given you a going-away party with singing and with music on tambourines and harps. 28 You didn't even give me a chance to kiss my own grandchildren and daughters good-by. That was really foolish. 29 I could easily hurt you, but the God your father worshiped has warned me not to make any threats or promises. 30 I can understand why you were eager to return to your father, but why did you have to steal my idols? 31 Jacob answered, "I left secretly because I was afraid you would take your daughters from me by force. 32 If you find that any one of us has taken your idols, I'll have that person killed. Let your relatives be witnesses. Show me what belongs to you, and you can take it back." Jacob did not realize that Rachel had stolen the household idols. 33 Laban searched the tents of Jacob, Leah, and the two servant women, but did not find the idols. Then he started for Rachel's tent. 34 She had already hidden them in the cushion she used as a saddle and was sitting on it. Laban searched everywhere and did not find them.

Bible Verse Review
  from Treasury of Scripure Knowledge

kiss: Genesis 31:55, Genesis 29:13, Exodus 4:27, Ruth 1:9, Ruth 1:14, 1 Kings 19:20, Acts 20:37

foolishly: Genesis 31:3, Genesis 31:13, Genesis 31:24, 1 Samuel 13:13, 2 Chronicles 16:9, 1 Corinthians 2:14

Reciprocal: Exodus 18:7 - kissed

Cross-References

Genesis 29:13
As soon as Laban heard the news, he ran out to meet Jacob. He hugged and kissed him and brought him to his home, where Jacob told him everything that had happened.
Genesis 31:3
One day the Lord said, "Jacob, go back to your relatives in the land of your ancestors, and I will bless you."
Genesis 31:13
and I am the God you worshiped at Bethel, when you poured olive oil on a rock and made a promise to me. Leave here right away and return to the land where you were born."
Genesis 31:24
But God appeared to Laban in a dream that night and warned, "Don't say a word to Jacob. Don't make a threat or a promise."
Genesis 31:55
Early the next morning, Laban kissed his daughters and his grandchildren good-by, then he left to go back home.
Exodus 4:27
The Lord sent Aaron to meet Moses in the desert. So Aaron met Moses at Mount Sinai and greeted him with a kiss.
Ruth 1:9
May he give each of you another husband and a home of your own." Naomi kissed them. They cried
Ruth 1:14
They cried again. Orpah kissed her mother-in-law good-by, but Ruth held on to her.
1 Samuel 13:13
"That was stupid!" Samuel said. "You didn't obey the Lord your God. If you had obeyed him, someone from your family would always have been king of Israel.
1 Kings 19:20
Elisha stopped plowing and ran after him. "Let me kiss my parents good-by, then I'll go with you," he said. "You can go," Elijah said. "But remember what I've done for you."

Gill's Notes on the Bible

And hast not suffered me to kiss my sons and my daughters?.... Did not give him an opportunity of taking his farewell, which used to be done with a kiss, as it is with us at this day: by his sons he means his grandsons, and so the Targum of Jonathan, my daughters' sons; and by his daughters Rachel and Leah, and Dinah his granddaughter:

thou hast done foolishly in [so] doing: since, as he would have him believe that he was both a loser by this step he took, and exposed himself to danger, seeing it was in the power of Laban to do him hurt, as in Genesis 31:29; but Jacob knew what he did, and that it was the wisest part to follow the direction of God.

Barnes' Notes on the Bible

- Jacob’s Flight from Haran

19. תרפים terāpı̂ym, Teraphim. This word occurs fifteen times in the Old Testament. It appears three times in this chapter, and nowhere else in the Pentateuch. It is always in the plural number. The root does not appear in Biblical Hebrew. It perhaps means “to live well,” intransitively (Gesenius, Roedig.), “to nourish,” transitively (Furst). The teraphim were symbols or representatives of the Deity, as Laban calls them his gods. They seem to have been busts (προτομαί protomai, Aquila) of the human form, sometimes as large as life 1 Samuel 19:13. Those of full size were probably of wood; the smaller ones may have been of metal. In two passages Judges 17:1-13; Judges 18:0; Hosea 3:4 they are six times associated with the ephod. This intimates either that they were worn on the ephod, like the Urim and Thummim, or more probably that the ephod was worn on them; in accordance with which they were employed for the purposes of divination Genesis 30:27; Zechariah 10:2. The employment of them in the worship of God, which Laban seems to have inherited from his fathers Joshua 24:2, is denounced as idolatry 1 Samuel 15:23; and hence, they are classed with the idols and other abominations put away by Josiah 2 Kings 23:24.

47. שׂהדוּתא יגר yegar-śâhădûtā', Jegar-sahadutha, “cairn of witness” in the Aramaic dialect of the old Hebrew or Shemite speech. גלעד gal‛ēd, Gal‘ed; and גלעד gı̂l‛ād, Gil‘ad, “cairn of witness” in Hebrew especially so called (see Genesis 11:1-9).

49. מצפה mı̂tspâh, Mizpah, “watch-tower.”

Jacob had now been twenty years in Laban’s service, and was therefore, ninety-six years of age. It has now become manifest that he cannot obtain leave of Laban to return home. He must, therefore, either come off by the high hand, or by secret flight. Jacob has many reasons for preferring the latter course.

Genesis 31:1-13

Circumstances at length induce Jacob to propose flight to his wives. His prosperity provokes the envy and slander of Laban’s sons, and Laban himself becomes estranged. The Lord now commands Jacob to return, and promises him his presence to protect him. Jacob now opens his mind fully to Rachel and Leah. Rachel, we observe, is put first. Several new facts come out in his discourse to them. Ye know - Jacob appeals to his wives on this point - “that with all my might I served your father.” He means, of course, to the extent of his engagement. During the last six years he was to provide for his own house, as the Lord permitted him, with the full knowledge and concurrence of Laban. Beyond this, which is a fair and acknowledged exception, he has been faithful in keeping the cattle of Laban. “Your father deceived me, and changed my wages ten times;” that is, as often as he could.

If, at the end of the first year, he found that Jacob had gained considerably, though he began with nothing, he might change his wages every following half-year, and so actually change them ten times in five years. In this case, the preceding chapter only records his original expedients, and then states the final result. “God suffered him not to hurt me.” Jacob, we are to remember, left his hire to the providence of God. He thought himself bound at the same time to use all legitimate means for the attainment of the desired end. His expedients may have been perfectly legitimate in the circumstances, but they were evidently of no avail without the divine blessing. And they would become wholly ineffectual when his wages were changed. Hence, he says, God took the cattle and gave them to me. Jacob seems here to record two dreams, the former of which is dated at the rutting season. The dream indicates the result by a symbolic representation, which ascribes it rather to the God of nature than to the man of art. The second dream makes allusion to the former as a process still going on up to the present time. This appears to be an encouragement to Jacob now to commit himself to the Lord on his way home. The angel of the Lord, we observe, announces himself as the God of Bethel, and recalls to Jacob the pillar and the vow. The angel, then, is Yahweh manifesting himself to human apprehension.

Genesis 31:14-19

His wives entirely accord with his view of their father’s selfishness in dealing with his son-in-law, and approve of his intended departure. Jacob makes all the needful preparations for a hasty and secret flight. He avails himself of the occasion when Laban is at a distance probably of three or more days’ journey, shearing his sheep. “Rachel stole the teraphim.” It is not the business of Scripture to acquaint us with the kinds and characteristics of false worship. Hence, we know little of the teraphim, except that they were employed by those who professed to worship the true God. Rachel had a lingering attachment to these objects of her family’s superstitious reverence, and secretly carried them away as relics of a home she was to visit no more, and as sources of safety to herself against the perils of her flight.

Genesis 31:20-24

Laban hears of his flight, pursues, and overtakes him. “Stole the heart,” κλέπτειν νοῦν kleptein noun. The heart is the seat of the understanding in Scripture. To steal the heart of anyone is to act without his knowledge. The river. The Frat, near which, we may conclude, Jacob was tending his flocks. Haran was about seventy miles from the river, and therefore, Laban’s flocks were on the other side of Haran. “Toward mount Gilead;” about three hundred miles from the Frat. “On the third day.” This shows that Laban’s flocks kept by his sons were still three days’ journey apart from Jacob’s. His brethren - his kindred and dependents. “Seven days’ journey.” On the third day after the arrival of the messenger, Laban might return to the spot whence Jacob had taken his flight. In this case, Jacob would have at least five days of a start; which, added to the seven days of pursuit, would give him twelve days to travel three hundred English miles. To those accustomed to the pastoral life this was a possible achievement. God appears to Laban on behalf of Jacob, and warns him not to harm him. “Not to speak from good to bad” is merely to abstain from language expressing and prefacing violence.

Genesis 31:25-32

Laban’s expostulation and Jacob’s reply. What hast thou done? Laban intimates that he would have dismissed him honorably and affectionately, and therefore, that his flight was needless and unkind; and finally charges him with stealing his gods. Jacob gives him to understand that he did not expect fair treatment at his hands, and gives him leave to search for his gods, not knowing that Rachel had taken them.

Genesis 31:33-42

After the search for the teraphim has proved vain, Jacob warmly upbraids Laban. “The camel’s saddle.” This was a pack-saddle, in the recesses of which articles might be deposited, and on which was a seat or couch for the rider. Rachel pleads the custom of women as an excuse for keeping her seat; which is admitted by Laban, not perhaps from the fear of ceremonial defilement Leviticus 15:19-27, as this law was not yet in force, but from respect to his daughter and the conviction that in such circumstances she would not sit upon the teraphim. “My brethren and thy brethren” - their common kindred. Jacob recapitulates his services in feeling terms. “By day the drought;” caused by the heat, which is extreme during the day, while the cold is not less severe in Palestine during the night. “The fear of Isaac” - the God whom Isaac fears. Judged - requited by restraining thee from wrong-doing.

Genesis 31:43-47

Laban, now pacified, if not conscience-stricken, proposes a covenant between them. Jacob erects a memorial pillar, around which the clan gather a cairn of stones, which serves by its name for a witness of their compact. “Jegar-sahadutha.” Here is the first decided specimen of Aramaic, as contradistinguished from Hebrew. Its incidental appearance indicates a fully formed dialect known to Jacob, and distinct from his own. Gilead or Galeed remains to this day in Jebel Jel’ad, though the original spot was further north.

Genesis 31:48-54

The covenant is then completed. And Mizpah. This refers to some prominent cliff from which, as a watch-tower, an extensive view might be obtained. It was in the northern half of Gilead Deuteronomy 3:12-13, and is noticed in Judges 11:29. It is not to be confounded with other places called by the same name. The reference of this name to the present occurrence is explained in these two verses. The names Gilead and Mizpah may have arisen from this transaction, or received a new turn in consequence of its occurrence. The terms of the covenant are now formally stated. I have cast. The erection of the pillar was a joint act of the two parties; in which Laban proposes, Jacob performs, and all take part. “The God of Abraham, Nahor, and Terah.” This is an interesting acknowledgment that their common ancestor Terah and his descendants down to Laban still acknowledged the true God even in their idolatry. Jacob swears by the fear of isaac, perhaps to rid himself of any error that had crept into Laban’s notions of God and his worship. The common sacrifice and the common meal ratify the covenant of reconciliation.


 
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